How many friends do you really have, and where are these friends? This recent article by Ned Potter of ABC News indicated some trends and research findings that I find disturbing:
We may “friend” more people on Facebook, but we have fewer real friends— the kind who would help us out in tough times, listen sympathetically no matter what, lend us money or give us a place to stay if we needed it, keep a secret if we shared one.
That’s the conclusion made by Matthew Brashears, a Cornell University sociologist who surveyed more than 2,000 adults from a national database and found that from 1985 to 2010, the number of truly close friends people cited has dropped — even though we’re socializing as much as ever.
On average, participants listed 2.03 close friends in Brashears’ survey. That number was down from about three in a 1985 study.
Even more disturbing to me was this:
Compared to other things that matter for support — like being married or living with a partner — it really matters. Frequent Facebook use is equivalent to about half the boost in support you get from being married.”
My take on this is that to the extent that that particular finding is valid, then a lot of people don’t have very health marriages.